Posts by little witch

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why take the time to "fade"?

by doogie in

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hey guys,.

i'm perplexed by something and i don't know how well it will be received on this board but i'm really curious.

why did you take the time to fade away vs. just daing yourself?.

little witch

Doogie (thinking Doogie Howser, remember that show) tee hee hee

Fading to some seems silly, juvenile, weak, fruitless, etc because leaving the jw's is such a personal issue. For some (perhaps you and I) it is as simple as saying "I am done, consequences be damned". We weigh the costs of saying so and find it a small price to pay.

For many others, family relationships, fear, guilt, shame, or being made an outcast are involved. I havent walked in those shoes myself. I am glad I didnt. My step family were the jws and I didnt give a damn if I ever saw or spoke to them again. But imagine if your son, daughter, parents, spouse was still a jw. Someone you care about and fear to lose.... Such a thing as saying " piss off" is not an option....You would use patience and fading as a ways to preserve what you love and want.

That is why some people need to just fly under the radar....they have their own price to pay for doing so. It is not like they dont want to say "take a flyin' leap"...but they suppress that anger and finality (and it would be final), for the sake of hope. That is very understandable to me.

I hope this helps..

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Who would go to your funeral?

by Country Girl in

for those of you that are disfellowshipped, disassociated, a fader, or formerly non-baptized publishers.. if you had your funeral in a church, would your jw friends or relatives come to it?

i was telling him the other day that i want to have my funeral service in my church, and that my jw relatives would *not* come to it.

he could hardly believe that.. country girl

little witch

Magick,

Would it be wrong of me to be laughing my ass off? It it is wrong, please know that I am not doing that.

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Finally ... I'm completely "certifiable", erm ... I mean certified

by Simon in

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i passed the last exam to get my final microsoft certification, mcse, and just did it in time to have done them all within a year !

mcp - microsoft certified professional.

mcad - microsoft certified application developer for .net.

little witch

Congrats Simon and Family,

I know how much this means to you all. So.......are the drinks on you?

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As a JW, Did You Ever Look DownOn Other Witnesses???

by minimus in

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and were you ever looked down upon?

little witch

Mini,

Have I told you lately how lame I think you are being by taking a persons thoughts that took a lot of emotion and time (and exposure) and turning into a simple question? You know, sometimes you suck a big one.

I love ya but sometimes you piss me off. That was cheap.

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Who would go to your funeral?

by Country Girl in

for those of you that are disfellowshipped, disassociated, a fader, or formerly non-baptized publishers.. if you had your funeral in a church, would your jw friends or relatives come to it?

i was telling him the other day that i want to have my funeral service in my church, and that my jw relatives would *not* come to it.

he could hardly believe that.. country girl

little witch

Country Girl, who is "Him" ?

At any rate, I wish to be cremated and my remains buried with my kin in our local cemetary. I do not wish to be viewed except as the day I died. My loved ones will want to see me one last time. That is ok with me. No embalming or viewing in a public sense.

A simple woman simply laid to rest for me.

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Isn't the Power of Prayer Just a Myth?????

by Balsam in

1. isn't the power of prayer just a myth?

if a child asks a parent for help in an emergency and the parent does not respond we'd call it child-abuse.

if a friend asks a friend for help and they were immobile and silent we'd call that betrayal.

little witch

The book of James deals with this topic. In this lesson it is said " without works faith is dead". It is not enought to say "be well fed" but some action must be done or the persons well wishes are empty.

prayer or meditation (or even caring) must have action behind the words. Otherwise how is a person to know you care?

Listen people...Hugs matter...financial help matters...clothing and shelter matters. If a person is without and alone, words are meaningless. If your neighbor needs a cup of sugar would you simply say, "I hope you get some soon"?

What good have you done if that is all you give?

Interestingly, that is the jw take on "loving ones neighbor".

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Dubs who shun those not DFed/DAed who fade

by gumby in

lately i have been reading alot about those who cease the dub life, and though they are not officially dfed or daed, are treated as though they are by dub family and friends.

when i was a dub , i remember viewing those who did not come to meeting's anymore nor field service......as simply "weak" or inactive.

never do i remember shunning or snubbing those who seemed to fade away.

little witch

Gumby,

They do so by observed behavior.

Interesting post and one that goes hand in hand with mine. See my post Jw business model for similar issues.

We are talking after all about how a mans day of beard growth, a womans hem line, a childs not feeling well and making too much noise is judged by the congregants. Where does that come from? Who gave those directives? Are rank and file members to blame?

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JULIA CHILD HAS PASSED AWAY AT THE AGE OF 91!

by TresHappy in

in memory of an awesome lady, god bless you julia!

julia child .

august 15, 1912 - august 12, 2004

little witch

Thanks for the newsflash. What a legacy Julia leaves for us..

I have learned so much from her work over the years. What a doll she is. Godspeed, Julia!

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MORTY is BACK!!! Woo Hoo!!

by Sassy in

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morty-->.

morty and i started here at nearly the same time... (of course i passed her up in posts long ago!!

but i cheated.. not her fault.. she had health problems and i .. well i kept posting!

little witch

(((((Morty)))))

You have been gone but not forgotten! Missed ya Sweetie

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Watchtower Business Model

by little witch in

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did you ever wonder why the watchtower fusses over such silly and minute rules?

things like smoking, dress, music, dance, movies, language, what company you keep, what and how you celebrate?

let's consider a few factors.

little witch

Jgnat, you are so right. Sticking to the old ways is a sure way to go bankrupt. I long to see the day this happens with the society. I do not think that what they are doing now will carry them into the future on several levels. First of all, not caring is inhumane. It is natural to want to show caring to others that we associate with. The fact that this is discouraged makes it not work.

Secondly, the emphasis on pushing paper (peddling lit) is empty and unfullfilling. Not to mention time consuming.

Thirdly, there is more awareness of how shallow such endeavors are. People are more educated and intuned to better ways of worship now days.

I sure hope to see the collapse of the society. But I dont think it will ever go away completely. They seem to run mainly on tradition alone. Those are the hardest ties to break. (because the family shunning issue).

As long as they convince a few to stay in, and their kids to stay in, they will survive on their meager monetary gains. Of course when those earnings run in the millions, that is nothing to sniff at. Losing lawsuits could put the hurt on them for sure. I am hoping that they will take a big bite!